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Behind a handicap sticker is an untold story

Lianne Mandelbaum, PT
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December 11, 2015
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I was attending a 50th birthday party for a friend of mine, when I struck up a conversation with someone I had never met. The conversation, of course, was with a woman who seemed genuinely interested in my quest to make air travel safer for those with food allergies. I told her how my family often receives dirty looks from other passengers when we pre-board a plane to wipe down the area for nut residue. I discussed how some people have laughed when asked not to open nut containers in the confined environment of an airplane. It is often hard to convey the seriousness of a life-threatening food allergy because it is a mostly an invisible disability. Then, she began to tell me her own story, or rather that of her daughter. Let’s call her Ashley.

Ashley works at one of the big New York City financial firms, which is quite an accomplishment, since Ashley suffers from cystic fibrosis. Ashley deftly manages her disease by employing various techniques to conserve her energy. She intentionally conceals her daily struggles from coworkers so that she both appears and is treated as normal as possible. Her diagnosis entitled her to receive a handicapped sticker for her car, which is logical, because the more she walks, the more fatigued she becomes. She was thankful for the opportunity to reduce her walking to the bare minimum.

However, Ashley had started to refuse to use the sticker. Why? It seems she receives so many dirty looks and nasty comments that she was intimidated when she used it. To the naked eye, she appears completely normal, and some uninformed observers accused her of taking advantage of “misusing” the sticker. No one who saw her park and get out of her car could imagine the extra work that her taxed lungs and cellular structure endured, because she had no cane, no limp, and no obvious visually disability.

How many of us are guilty of pre-judging someone without either becoming fully informed or giving that person the benefit of the doubt? Why are we so judgmental as a society to those we sense are getting away with something, or being treated differently? What does it say about us as people, when we are so quick to have a negative bias against anyone who is “different” or who we perceive as getting a “special” treatment? Why is our first reaction a failure to have empathy? Why not think, “How can I help to make it easier for you because I am blessed with two legs that work, ears that can hear, brains that follow my thoughts, and an immune system that functions pretty normally.” That’s empathy. That’s compassion. That’s the type of world I strive to teach my kids to emulate.

If someone has that handicapped sticker, or is pre-boarding a plane with or without an obvious impairment, there is most likely an untold story. Many illnesses or disabilities can be invisible, and they could be fighting a battle we don’t understand and cannot see. I acknowledge there are always some who take advantage of the system. They get a sticker, or pre-board with a fabricated disability, but I don’t worry about them. They have their own moral compass to follow and they have to look at themselves in the mirror. I am a big believer in that what you will reap will be what you sow. We need to take the time to recognize that most people do not want special treatment, and they have shown great courage to ask for it.

Lianne Mandelbaum is a leading advocate for airline safety measures to protect food-allergic passengers. As president of No Nut Traveler and airline correspondent for Allergic Living, she drives policy change by collecting testimonials from food-allergic families to share with lawmakers, media, and advocacy groups. She can be reached on X @nonuttraveler, Facebook, and LinkedIn.

A sought-after speaker and media source, Lianne participated in a Medscape panel on emergency medical kits on planes and contributed global data on airline travel and food allergies at the GA²LEN Anacare Anaphylaxis & Food Allergy Forum. Her travel tips were also featured by Stanford’s Sean N. Parker Center for Allergy Research. She also appeared on Bloomberg to discuss the challenges faced by food-allergic travelers and advocate for policy changes.

Her advocacy led to a Department of Transportation ruling recognizing food allergy as a disability. She co-designed a global air travel and food allergy survey with Northwestern University’s CFAAR, which was presented at AAAAI and published in The Journal of Allergy & Clinical Immunology. She is the co-author of “Understanding Experiences, Barriers, and Facilitators of Safe Airline Travel—A Global Survey of Food Allergy Patients and Caregivers” (The Journal of Allergy & Clinical Immunology). She also contributed to “10 Practical Priorities to Prevent and Manage Serious Allergic Reactions: GA²LEN ANACare and EFA Anaphylaxis Manifesto” (Clinical and Translational Allergy) and “Ever Treat a Patient on a Plane? Why Med Kits Need an Update” (Medscape). Additionally, she collaborated with stakeholders to include anaphylaxis and necessary medications in the FAA Reauthorization Act of 2024.

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