Busy physicians seldom pause long enough to feel the weight or the wisdom of the year behind them.

We know the end of the year is approaching not because we’ve reflected, but because holiday coverage discussions have begun. Someone needs to work Thanksgiving. Someone has to take Christmas. Someone will miss the department party again.

You look at the schedule and realize: This year, it’s you.

And in that moment, something inside you sighs, not dramatically, but quietly. The way physicians sigh when we’ve been carrying more than anyone realizes.

This is the time of year when it’s easy to feel isolated. We move from shift to shift, patient to patient, processing things internally because there’s no one to share it. It can feel like you’re the only one going through it, especially if you’re the only one in your specialty on a shift, especially if your team looks to you for every answer, and especially if the culture says, “just handle it.”

The challenge is real. But something else is happening as you navigate this journey. Something seldom discussed or acknowledged, maybe not even by you.

You have also been growing. Not in ways medicine likes to measure (RVUs, patient encounters, shifted hours, “productivity”). You’re gaining experience, becoming a better clinician. You’re gaining wisdom, learning what you need to thrive, not merely survive. You’re becoming more you. A new version of you has been forming all year long, quietly, steadily, without applause.

Here’s the opportunity to acknowledge this.

1. Find a quiet moment to reflect

As you look back over the year, what was the greatest challenge you faced? Maybe it was a difficult case with a poor prognosis. Maybe it was a change in your personal or family life. Identify it now, not to relive the emotion, but to gain understanding.

2. Notice who you were in the middle of it

There was you that showed up for the team, the patients, and the meetings. Then there was a real you, kept hidden, not wanting your vulnerability to show.

• Maybe you went into avoidance mode until you absolutely had to face the situation?
• Maybe you were triggered into fight-or-flight reaction, hypervigilant and bracing for impact?
• Maybe you cried in the on-call room to release it all before heading back to the floor?

This is your humanity. And it reveals the internal patterns, the survival responses that medicine never taught us to understand.

3. Now that it’s behind you, what did the experience teach you?

Who have you become? What did this challenge show you about:

• Your resilience?
• Your quiet strength?
• Your ability to adapt?
• Your emotional depth?
• Your capacity to find calm under pressure?

Every challenge shapes the next layer of your identity, even when it feels uncomfortable, misunderstood, unsupported, and unappreciated.

There are places to celebrate yourself this year.

Even if the year didn’t unfold the way your heart desired, you showed up. Celebrate the moments:

• When a difficult conversation could have shaken you, yet you remained grounded.
• When a patient diagnosis felt overwhelming, but you faced it head-on.
• When a life change shook you, but you kept moving, one breath at a time.

You grew through it all. A new version of you is already emerging: more grounded, more aware, more aligned with the physician and the person you want to be.

Stephanie Wellington is a physician, certified professional coach, and founder of Nurturing MDs, dedicated to guiding physicians from stress and overwhelm to ease and flow in the demanding medical field. She empowers clinicians to infuse new energy into their careers and reconnect with their identities beyond the stethoscope. She can also be reached on Facebook and LinkedIn.

When Dr. Wellington integrated life coaching principles into her medical practice, her clinical experiences transformed. While she still faces long shifts, critical patients, and systemic challenges, she chooses to be solution-focused, prioritizing the best outcomes for her patients, her team, and herself. For over a decade, she has been teaching physicians the life strategies needed to transform their medical careers and optimize their well-being.

She is a speaker, author, and recipient of the Excellence in Teaching Award. If stress and overwhelm are part of your practice, get started with the free guide: “15 Ways to Infuse New Energy.”