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Want doctors to be more emotionally available? Stop emasculating them.

Jordan Grumet, MD
Physician
September 15, 2014
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On the face of it, the phone call was relatively innocent.  A family member was confused about the test I scheduled.  Apparently the lab refused to draw the blood.  When I inquired why, I was informed that the patient hadn’t been fasting.  I calmly explained to the daughter that fasting was not necessary.  Recent studies had shown little effect on lipid panel results and I was using the glycosylated hemoglobin to asses diabetes.  The daughter, however, said the lab technician was steadfast.  They wouldn’t draw the blood unless my order specifically stated “no fasting necessary.” Furthermore, the lab refused to call me directly, I had to hear this all secondhand from the family.

Not a moment later, a fax was returned to my office,  Although I had filled out the durable medical equipment form correctly, Medicare wouldn’t accept it.  Apparently I had typed instead of hand written the date.

My hospice patient wasn’t doing so great either.  Actively dying in the nursing home, I had written a prescription for morphine hours ago.  Unfortunately the pharmacy wouldn’t fill my order.  Although I had specified the numeric version of the quantity on the script, I hadn’t also spelled it out.  The pharmacist on the phone was less than apologetic.  Government regulation!

There is no question that physicians should not be above the regular pains and hassles of any professional workforce.  I accept that governments regulate industry and sometimes one has to deal with nonsensical rules from time to time.  But the recent systemic demoralization of this highly skilled and trained group of individuals is having untoward effects.

Facing arduous and difficult decisions while being distracted by an ever-growing mound of minutia molded by technocrats and enforced by unskilled labor is nothing less than emasculating.  It is no wonder why the modern day physician is becoming ever more distant and emotionally as well as physically unavailable.

If we truly want to build a high-value, high-quality version of our health care system, we need our physician workforce to feel a strong sense of internal motivation and pride in their work product.

We can’t do this if we keep cutting them off at the legs.

Jordan Grumet is an internal medicine physician who blogs at In My Humble Opinion.

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