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4 traits every new attending physician needs to thrive

Sarah Epstein
Conditions
June 13, 2025
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When I conduct therapy for doctors after residency, I am supporting new attending physicians as they navigate one of the most intense and disorienting transitions of their careers. These early attendings often arrive feeling untethered. They’re rediscovering who they are, working through long-ignored anxiety, stepping into their authority, and trying to build lives that don’t begin and end with medicine.

When I talk about what makes a new attending “successful,” I’m not referring to clinical performance, diagnostic skill, or efficiency. I’m talking about the qualities that help physicians feel fulfilled both in and out of the hospital. These four traits can ease the transition and lay the groundwork for a life that feels sustainable and whole.

1. Flexibility

A successful new attending embraces flexibility while figuring out what life beyond training should look like. For the first time, their choices are fully their own. The roadmap that has been clear since they were pre-med ends, leaving a sometimes daunting vacuum. There may be a period of uncertainty. Questions like What does success look like now? or How does medicine fit into my larger life? often emerge. Flexibility allows space for new attendings to experiment a bit, allowing space for evolving priorities.

2. Self-compassion

Self-compassion offers protection from the harsh inner critic that often surfaces during this transition. Many new attendings see the kind of physician they want to be but do not yet have the clinical experience and sheer numbers to be as seamless as seasoned attendings. These comparisons to those who have been in the field for many years can be debilitating if strategic self-compassion isn’t used to help see that these comparisons are unfair. Self-compassion helps that physician say, “OK, I know they have been in the field for much longer than I have. I need to give myself grace as I learn what I need to learn on the job. I will continue to grow into the physician I want to be.” Still others compare themselves to peers who may feel “ahead” on metrics around relationships, home ownership, and travel. Without self-compassion, these comparisons can be debilitating. Self-compassion allows the new attending to see their own position and say, “It makes sense to compare to others. It makes sense to feel ‘behind.’ And I’m going to do the best thing for me without beating myself up for not being in some other stage.” The ability to extend grace to oneself, to acknowledge that it’s OK not to have it all figured out, creates room to grow without unnecessary shame or pressure.

3. Intentionality

Intentionality means making decisions rooted in personal values rather than reacting automatically to external expectations. Whether it’s choosing a job, a specialty track, or when to start a family, early-career physicians thrive when they pause and ask: What truly matters to me? That kind of conscious decision-making leads to deeper alignment between work and life. It sets the stage for long-term satisfaction.

4. Perspective

Perspective allows new attendings to recognize that struggle is a natural part of growth. The learning curves are steep. It’s overwhelming to suddenly be the one in charge. It’s overwhelming to be the attending making the final call on patient care. But stepping back to view this phase in context—imagining what your future self might say looking back—can soften the urgency for perfection and invite more self-acceptance.

The transition to attendinghood isn’t easy. But it can be transformative. By embracing these traits, and perhaps with the support of counseling for physicians, this period can become a powerful foundation for a fulfilling and well-balanced medical career.

Sarah Epstein is a licensed marriage and family therapist.

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