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The unseen emotional toll of being a physician

Sarah Epstein
Conditions
August 1, 2025
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Many of the physicians who come to my therapy practice share a quiet, painful fear. They’re already excellent clinicians. They know the medicine, stay up to date on the literature, and often find deep meaning in their work. But they’re worn down by the emotional toll of sitting with suffering day after day. They start to wonder: Why is this hitting me so hard when everyone else seems fine? Am I too emotional to be a doctor?

The answer is no. You’re not too emotional—you just weren’t taught how to care for yourself in the process of caring for others. Most physicians were never trained to notice their emotional triggers, manage persistent stress, or practice self-compassion after a particularly hard case. Being able to sit with sick and traumatized patients and still feel steady at the end of the day isn’t an inherent trait. It’s a skill set.

Plenty of thoughtful, effective physicians are deeply feeling people. They just need tools to manage the emotional weight of the work. If you’re one of the many doctors with anxiety, exhaustion, or emotional overload, here are a few ways to support yourself:

1. Identify what’s most distressing. Every physician has certain types of patients or situations that are especially tough. For some, it’s cases involving injustice—patients who can’t afford treatment or who are failed by the system. For others, it’s patients who seem to misuse care, or who act aggressively and remind them of painful personal experiences. For many, it’s the loss of young patients. Get as specific with these observations as you can. The more you notice, the better you can care for yourself.

Begin observing your own patterns. What moments trigger sadness, stress, or anger? What days leave you feeling emotionally wrung out? Noticing these patterns helps you validate your own responses and gives you a starting point for taking care of yourself.

2. Stop judging your sensitivity. Is it possible other doctors are more stoic than you? Sure. But judging your sensitivity won’t make it go away—it just adds another layer of shame. Instead of seeing your emotional depth as a liability, start practicing compassion. That might sound like, “This was a really hard day. No wonder I feel this way.”

There’s no need to stuff your feelings down or pretend you’re unfazed. You can build a meaningful and sustainable medical career without erasing who you are.

3. Learn what you need. Once you understand what drains you and stop judging yourself for needing support, you can actually start giving yourself what helps. Sometimes that’s as small as taking a moment outside a patient’s door to say, “That was hard,” before moving to the next encounter. Other times, it’s recognizing what you need after the workday: a walk, a good meal, rest, connection with a colleague, or a hard workout.

The more you listen to your needs, the better you’ll become at caring for yourself.

4. Know when to seek help. For some physicians, sensitivity turns into chronic rumination, high stress, or burnout. If you find yourself constantly overwhelmed or mentally replaying cases long after they’ve ended, you might benefit from counseling for doctors. A therapist can help you identify when stress has crossed into symptoms—and work with you to build healthier ways of coping.

The medical field needs compassionate, emotionally present doctors. The goal isn’t to detach completely. It’s to have the tools to care deeply and sustainably.

Sarah Epstein is a licensed marriage and family therapist.

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