A few weeks ago, I heard Michelle Obama say something that stopped me in my tracks:

“We have to learn to be OK with the regular days. The in-between. The parts of life that aren’t exciting.”

I thought of my kids in the back seat during a long car ride, sighing dramatically, claiming they were “literally dying” of boredom. I thought of patients sitting in a waiting room with nothing but their own thoughts. I thought of myself between major life goals, wondering why I felt restless.

In our culture, boredom has become something to avoid at all costs. We fill the smallest gap in the day with a scroll, a task, or a distraction. But maybe boredom isn’t the enemy. Maybe it is the medicine we have been neglecting.

The case for boredom

Psychologists have found that boredom is not just empty time. It is a mental pause that allows the brain to shift into what is called the default mode network, the space where creativity, problem-solving, and reflection live.

Children who experience unstructured downtime learn to entertain themselves, self-regulate, and imagine. Adults who allow for quiet moments often discover clarity they cannot find when every second is scheduled.

But when we overfill every day with activity and stimulation, we rob ourselves, and our kids, of the chance to sit with our thoughts, process emotions, and simply be.

The problem with constant stimulation

I have seen this in medicine. Clinicians are trained to thrive on urgency, the codes, the diagnoses, the high-stakes decisions. But careers built on adrenaline can burn out fast. Patients, too, sometimes expect constant progress: A new medication, a new test, a new plan at every visit.

The truth is, recovery, from illness, grief, or burnout, often happens in the slow, uneventful stretches. The days when “nothing is happening” are sometimes when the most important healing is taking place.

Why kids need to be bored

Every summer, parents scramble to fill calendars with camps, trips, and structured activities. But kids also need the afternoons when they lie on the grass staring at clouds, when they are left to invent a game with nothing but a stick and their imagination.

These are not wasted hours. They are the fertile ground for curiosity and resilience.

Why adults need it too

Some of us chase achievements so relentlessly that the in-between feels like failure. But Michelle Obama is right: Life is lived mostly in those in-betweens. The big moments, the wedding, the promotion, the graduation, are a few pages in the book. The rest of the story is made up of ordinary Tuesdays.

When we accept that, we can stop measuring our lives only by the highlights and start appreciating the texture of the everyday.

An invitation to embrace the pause

The next time you find yourself in a waiting room without your phone, or on a walk without a podcast, resist the urge to fill the space. Let your mind wander. Let your kids complain for five minutes in the back seat. Let yourself notice what it feels like to simply exist without a goal.

Boredom is not empty. It is a reset. It is a breath. It is a reminder that life does not have to be extraordinary every moment to be worthwhile.

Sarah White is a nurse practitioner, small business owner, and premedical student based in Virginia. With a background in clinical practice and caregiving, she brings a unique perspective to the intersection of medicine, family life, and community service. She volunteers with the Medical Reserve Corps and is preparing to apply to medical school in 2026.

Sarah is also the founder of two growing ventures: Wrinkle Relaxer, where she specializes in aesthetic treatments, and Bardot Boutique Aesthetics, a space for curated beauty and wellness services.