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Why doctors need life skills

Stephanie Wellington, MD
Physician
February 11, 2020
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Medical school prepares doctors for patient care: perform a history and physical, and based on the findings, consider the next diagnostic tests to order, review all data, and develop a treatment plan. By graduating from medical school, you are skilled to perform those duties with a certain level of competency and confidence.

Success in the next phase of this journey and the rest of your life depends on honing those skills and acquiring new ones. This is where the gap exists for many doctors. Many doctors continue to rely on the skills and strategies learned in medical school and the ones they picked up in training and fail to develop a plan for lifelong learning, where they purposefully master proven skills and strategies to create predictable success for their lives and careers.

Doctors are struggling, getting discouraged, and feeling like they’re not cut out for this because they do not fully understand that the skills acquired in medical school, such as solid study habits, commitment to the tasks, and strong work ethic, are the foundation. They are the skills upon which to build. It is not where they are meant to stay. Physicians are struggling because they’re not honing their current skills or developing new skills to complement their new level of achievement.

Doctors are struggling, getting discouraged, and feeling overwhelmed because they haven’t tapped into life skills to support them as they meet the challenges in medicine. Sure, they have baseline coping skills. But they experience life in ways that other people just don’t. As doctors, they are asked to confront poor prognosis and even life and death in one exam room with all the emotional triggers that accompany that, then move on to the next exam room to give another patient better news with a smile.   And they are expected to do it in less than 15 minutes with little time to recalibrate their own emotions and energy. Effectively navigating this means having daily practices in place that support their emotional and spiritual well-being. Most doctors either don’t know the importance or haven’t invested the time to develop this area.

Doctors are struggling, getting discouraged, and have low self-confidence because they haven’t nurtured their people skills so that they can effectively interact with the team. Communication skills, setting clear boundaries, delegating appropriate tasks to the right team member, and giving praise so team members feel heard and valued are all skills that must be nurtured throughout their careers. As a result of not taking the time to hone and master these skills, doctors experience breakdowns in communication, frustration when expectations are not met, decreased effectiveness and productivity, and even delays in patient care.

The great news is that these are all skills that can be learned and mastered, and they don’t require a lot of additional time. They require the willingness to acknowledge your strengths and use them as the foundation for further growth and development. They also require the willingness to suspend judgment when challenges arise.

When doctors and other medical professionals master these skills, the team functions like a well-rehearsed orchestra. Each member of the team feels valued. Nothing feels as great as when the team is in sync and patient care is well executed. It is truly something to aspire to achieve.

Stephanie Wellington is a physician, certified professional coach, and founder of Nurturing MDs, dedicated to guiding physicians from stress and overwhelm to ease and flow in the demanding medical field. She empowers clinicians to infuse new energy into their careers and reconnect with their identities beyond the stethoscope. She can also be reached on Facebook and LinkedIn.

She is a speaker, author, and recipient of the Excellence in Teaching Award. If stress and overwhelm are part of your practice, get started with the free guide: “15 Ways to Infuse New Energy.”

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