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The invisible weight carried by Black female physicians

Trisza Leann Ray, DO
Physician
May 19, 2025
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When I read Didi’s story, my heart recognized every detail—the subtle disrespect, the overt hostility, the isolation. I felt seen. Not just because I understood her pain but because I lived it, too.

In 1998, I began medical school in Oklahoma. Young, hopeful, and profoundly aware of the honor medicine held, I imagined a career built on compassion and respect. Instead, what greeted me was bias, microaggressions, and disrespect—from seniors, nurses, and patients alike.

Patients regularly mistook me for housekeeping, even with my crisp white coat and clearly displayed credentials. They complained they’d never seen a physician, despite daily rounds. I endured the dismissive glances, skeptical faces, and cutting demands: “Can I see a real doctor?” they’d say, bluntly meaning a white doctor. Calmly, patiently, I explained that I was the physician in charge of their care, and their confusion or frustration only intensified.

Patients often demanded excessive pain medications for vague and chronic conditions. When I explained I was not their pain management doctor, threats and accusations followed. Once, a patient seeking methadone threatened to hang me. Another reported me for refusing narcotics, labeling me angry and unprofessional—labels swiftly validated by administrators who never asked for my side.

The weight of being perceived as angry or difficult, no matter my patience or politeness, exhausted me. I internalized that weight, carrying it like a quiet penance.

For Black female physicians, this is our invisible burden: We must endlessly prove our competence, justify our decisions, and soften our strength, lest we offend or threaten. We are expected to nurture and soothe, yet criticized for holding firm boundaries. Our grace is presumed weakness; our strength perceived as aggression.

Like Didi, I too questioned my place in medicine. I questioned whether the profession I loved would ever fully embrace me. Yet, my experiences—facing severe illness and the vulnerabilities it brought—renewed my commitment to medicine, albeit on my terms. Now, at 56, having overcome major illness, I understand deeply how crucial supportive mentorship and representation truly are. I lacked role models who mirrored my journey, women who navigated these challenges before me and could offer strength and guidance.

Today, medicine is changing—but not fast enough. Young female physicians, especially those of color, continue to face unspoken prejudices and unrealistic expectations. It’s past time for our profession to openly acknowledge and address these issues.

Let’s build a system that values female physicians for their strength, intellect, and compassion. Let’s advocate for clear patient boundaries, equitable mentorship, and meaningful support structures.

To the young physicians like Didi who still feel unseen, I promise: Your presence matters. You belong here. Medicine needs your voice, your experience, and your vision.

Keep speaking your truth. I believe in you.

Because I was you.

Trisza Leann Ray is a physician.

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