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When medical students first deal with death

Dr. Irma Faruqi
Education
March 20, 2012
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Very few are as starkly aware of the transience of life as those working in the healthcare profession. We are expected to be, for want of a better word, immune to it; as if each death we face is somehow a vaccine that will eventually, with regular booster doses, provide us with enough immunity to be resistant to the Grim Reaper.

We spend years studying, arming ourselves with pages and pages of textbook information, building our armies that comprise of various specialties in the hope of fighting our Goliath. We often succeed, but memories of the times that we don’t keep us awake for years to come. Sometimes, death sneaks up on us, ambushing us when we least expect it, and at other times, it gives us a chance – lets us gather up our full strength and develop a strategy to beat it down, and beat it down we do. It may not deserve such a beautiful metaphor, but it really is like a Phoenix, rising from its ashes after each ending.

We leave our battlefields with scars; scars that may make us stronger, but no prouder. We cover them with confidence, and hide them under a starched white coat, but no matter what we do, there they remain, ready to bleed at the slightest touch. We begin our journey as medical students, sheltered and unscathed. After being brought to our knees by the first blow, we are often mocked for our vulnerability. We are told that eventually, we will not be paralyzed by the loss of a life; eventually, we will be able to look death in the eye without blinking and without shedding a tear, but as much as I wish to not end every day weeping, strangely, I can’t help but wonder whether that is what I really want.

Yes, I need to build nerves of steel, and yes, I need to be pragmatic, but do I need to lose my ability to feel? One may argue that doctors need to keep emotions and medical judgment aside, and don’t get me wrong, I am in total agreement, but after all is said and done, why can’t I feel the pain of loss? Why can’t I mourn the death of someone who once was a child, a parent or a spouse? Why can’t I shed a tear for someone of whose demise no one else might be aware?

Death may defeat us constantly, but not consistently. We are strong, powerful, and vigilant, and often deliver a blow that knocks it out for a good amount of time. When we lose, however, we still look it in the eye and warn of our vengeance, but when it turns to leave, we are allowed to collapse. We are allowed to lick our wounds and succumb to tears, because underneath all the layers of strength, confidence, knowledge and experience, our essence is purely human.

Irma Faruqi is a medical student. 

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