Emotional over-functioning drives the competence trap
There is a danger in being good at holding everything together. People start to believe you do not need holding. Competence becomes camouflage. Reliability becomes a cage. And one day you wake up realizing you have become the infrastructure of a life that no one is helping you carry. For those who thought they could carry everything alone, I have realized there comes a time when a “foreclosure notice” may …
Emotional over-functioning drives the competence trap
