When I took my first job out of fellowship, I had two kids, both in diapers. Between that and starting my first job out of training, it seemed I had no idle time at all. I distinctly recall deciding: I was here to work, not to make friends. (To my work friends: Thank you for being my friend despite my attitude!)

We didn’t decide to make friends in training — it …

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My 13-year-old daughter inspired this article. If you parent a middle school volleyball player, you know that overhand serving is the holy grail of the game at that level. My daughter has a solid underhand serve that works well for her, but a consistent overhand serve would give her a big boost. To my consternation, she prefers to practice passing, i.e., bumping the ball back and forth. Why would she …

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I was recently coaching a bright, energetic primary care physician in her first few years of practice. She was working through her Life’s Purpose statement, an exercise we often recommend. At the end of her admirable statement, she tagged on “with efficiency.” Naturally, we explored this a bit. Our conversation meandered toward an interesting conclusion: the more she focused on efficiency, the more likely she was to feel overwhelmed and …

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